I’m a little behind on this, but would like to keep going with the tradition.
1. What did you do in 2012 that you’d never done before?
Celebrated the first birthday of my child, watched all nine Academy Award nominated movies, went to the horse racetrack…all in all, a pretty low-key year.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Well, let’s see!?
My resolutions for 2012:
- Stop biting my nails. Again. – Nope, still biting and getting smacked by Jason for doing it.
- Be a nicer person. – Ummm, probably not.
- Make more friends that have kids. – I finally realized that having more friends with kids won’t make me be more social. Friends with kids are even that much harder to make plans with, actually. I did start spending maybe a little more time with them, but didn’t strive to go out and make new friends. I really like the friends I already have.
- Figure out banking/mortgage/finances. This all stems from having way too many bank accounts with automatic payments coming from multiple of them. Our paychecks go to separate accounts and it’s all chaotic. Also, I want to close our accounts with Chase. Blerg. – Uh, again, didn’t really get this all cleaned up. Maybe in 2013?
- Lose weight. Duh. I don’t have to get “skinny” or anything, but I currently fit into one pair of jeans (pre-pregnancy jeans, yay!) that look good on me, but fit a little strangely since Jack came. I refuse to buy bigger pants. – Well, I bought bigger pants. Shut up.
- Watch less TV. This is happening naturally anyway because of the baby, but I want to continue eliminating TV that I just don’t enjoy that much. I don’t HAVE to watch shows until they are cancelled just because I started watching it at one point in time. - I think I have done well at ditching the shows I wasn’t super crazy about, but I don’t think I spend less time overall watching less TV.
- Actually start some of the craft projects I bought ALL the supplies for and then never even tried. Seriously. – Nope. Maybe when Jack is 18?
I actually do like making resolutions. Sometimes they really do stick with me. Sometimes not. But it doesn’t hurt anything to aim high and hopefully get at least halfway there.
Resolutions for 2013:
Stop smoking. Again.
Use my Paid-Time-Off more consistently. I lost PTO at the end of 2012 because I hadn’t taken it all. AND THAT IS JUST RIDICULOUS. I get a crazy amount of PTO at my awesome company and I just have to realize that I need to take some of those days mid-week, alone. Jason can’t be there for all of it, because I just have too many days. And that’s not a bad thing, I just need to take advantage of it.
Spend more time with our parents/Jack’s grandparents.
Host more social events at our house. We’ve done a pretty good job of being social lately, I’d like to keep that going with making sure Jason and I both get time out of the house, away from being a “parent” solo, but also making sure we’re inviting friends/family over more often to visit.
Spending more time alone with Jason. I feel like we do terribly in this area. We’ve gotten to do a couple things in the last couple of months and it always reminds me that we need to do it more consistently.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
A couple of co-workers did. But I’m really waiting for someone close enough to me that I can go to the hospital like THE NEXT DAY at least, and snuggle on their fresh newborn.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
No, I’m happy to have had a death free year. 2011 was rough.
5. What countries did you visit?
6. What would you like to have in 2013 that you lacked in 2012?
More Sonja time. And more Sonja and Jason time.
7. What dates from 2012 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
July 24th, when Jack had a seizure and is the single scariest moment of my entire life. December 24th and 25th – the first Xmas for Jack that he truly participated, opened his own presents and saw Santa Clause. It was awesome.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Man, I feel like I didn’t really do much this year. Just work, home, dinner, diaper changing, bed, rinse repeat. I guess if I’m going to get all mushy about it, I do feel like last year was much easier than the year before. Once Jack was 6-7 months old, we kind of starting getting into the swing of things, established routines, started feeling more comfortable as parents. We got out of the house by ourselves a couple of times, Jack had his first overnight stay somewhere other than our house. I came to the realization that my stress levels are MY fault. Being able to let go of things that don’t matter and making sure that I take some time for myself is crucial. I felt like I started getting the hang of it late in autumn and it’s something I want to continue doing.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Again, I don’t think I particularly failed at anything, but I guess I’d say not getting things more organized/under control so that I can relax about those things. We have finances to straighten out, a house to clean, a basement to organize, papers to file…and that stuff just seems to keep piling up and never goes away. The lingering thought of taking care of business is enough to keep me at a fairly medium stress level, so I really need to just get off my butt and start crossing things off a list. Or something.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Mostly just kennel cough, picked up from daycare. The last couple of months have been the worst, with both Jack and myself being on again/off again (mostly on again) sick with a cough and runny nose. Jason has been blissfully healthy, thank goodness.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
My first reaction is to talk about my boots, which I love. And were expensive (for me) and I love them. I love them. But also, around Xmas time, we finally bought two new couches to replace the hideous ones that I hated ever so much. They aren’t the world’s fanciest couches, but are light years better than the ones I had. So I’m super grateful.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
My sister-in-law, Jessica, has taken Jack for us lots of times and always does so with an air of “Yes! I’m so excited!” for which I think she is super crazy, but I am eternally grateful. Jason and I have been able to take a little time for ourselves, which is crucial to our mental health. Thanks, Jessica!
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
Both of the extreme sides of politics. I have no patience for either end, extreme left or extreme right. Why can’t we just get along? Or at least take two seconds to hear the other side and try to understand where they’re coming from. God, I’m glad the election year is over.
14. Where did most of your money go?
Mortgage, daycare, blerg.
15. What did you get really excited about?
The time off we were able to take by ourselves. Raft Club, Girls Weekend, New Year’s weekend…ahh, blissful.
16. What song will always remind you of 2012?
I don’t listen to a ton of music these days, but I guess I’d say Call Me, Maybe because it’s freaking everywhere.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
– happier or sadder? Much happier. Looking back, I think I was a little depressed at this time last year. I’ve gotten better at parenting, more USED to it, and that helps a lot. Plus, I get WAY more sleep these days than I did the year before.
– thinner or fatter? About the same? I think?
– richer or poorer? Probably a little richer. We didn’t make any major purchases this year and we both worked a full year, as compared to the year before when I was on maternity leave for 5 months.
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Spend time with Jason. I’m becoming a broken record about this.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
20. How did you spend Christmas?
Christmas Eve at my house with my in-laws. Christmas Day at my parents house with my side of the family.
21. Did you fall in love in 2012?
I continued to love those I already was in love with.
22. What was your favorite TV program?
Breaking Bad was by far my favorite, but some others include: American Horror Story, Downton Abbey, Modern Family, Catfish, Walking Dead.
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
I’m definitely disappointed in some of the people in my life these days…but I’m trying to be a nicer person lately, or at the very least, trying to let go of some things that have been bothering me, at least for the sake of being more peaceful with myself. (Word for word what I wrote last year…let’s continue this. I’ve let go of people that I needed to let go of. I have less patience for people than I used to.)
24. What was the best book you read?
I spent a lot of the year reading the Game of Thrones series, which I both loved and came to grow a little weary of toward the end, because each book is SO freaking long. Other awesome reads included Secretariat, No Easy Day, Flight Behavior, Bossypants and The Book Thief.
25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
I pretty much don’t know anything about new music since approximately 2006.
26. What did you want and get?
I got to have the privilege of going back to work and having that for myself. It doesn’t work for everyone, I know some great stay-at-home Mom’s, but it just wasn’t for me. I love my job and company and feel really lucky to be able to have both.
27. What did you want and not get?
Man, I can’t think of anything that I wanted and didn’t get. Except maybe a winning lottery ticket?
28. What was your favorite film of this year?
I don’t go to the theatre often, but I did recently see Zero Dark Thirty and was blown away.
29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 36 this year. For the life of me, I can’t remember what I did.
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Maybe if all my friends lived on my street. (This was my answer last year, and it still stands true today
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?
32. What kept you sane?
Having a great husband that lets me get out of the house when I need to. Which culminated in a four-day Girls Weekend I took in December. It was heavenly.
33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
I wouldn’t say I “fancy” them – but the political figures of 2012 were the most intriguing. From the calm, cool and collected to the downright idiots who probably drive their PR people nuts.
34. What political issue stirred you the most?
I would say I’m most stirred by the gun control debate, although I haven’t addressed it specifically in my Facebook feed or here. I mostly am just really really sad about December’s tragedy at Sandy Hook and I try to put myself in their place, which I can’t. I turned to Jason the other night and told him if something like that happened to Jack, well…I’d be…done. I’d probably have to just be locked up in the insane asylum. I don’t know how those parents do it, go on, live their life. I’m incredibly proud of them for what they have to deal with. I’m not sure I’d be strong enough.
35. Who did you miss?
I miss Sara every day. I’ve been thinking about her a lot lately. I didn’t realize that this would go on for so long…that I’d forget, see someone that looks like her and actually think it’s her, for one split second. Or that I’d think of something I needed to tell her about. It’s just…unrelenting, this missing of her.
36. Who was the best new person you met?
Oh man, I’m not sure I met anyone new this year? That’s just…sad.
37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2012.
I own my own feelings, my own frustrations, my own resentments. I am in charge of how much time I get to have to myself, whether I get to go out for a drink, a movie or take a weekend away. It’s no one’s fault but my own. I have control over my own feelings.